How to get over my driving anxiety
Hi there, I’m writing this review of The Driving Fear Program hoping it will be useful for you who, like I did, are struggling with fear and anxiety of driving.
My story comes very differently from the common driving anxiety reasons. I didn’t have an accident, or simple couldn’t drive one day. Please read to learn where it came from and how I got over it.
I lived in the north of Mexico for a while, when the war on drugs was happening. I had been driving for around 8 years now, had been involved in some minor car bumps, but nothing serious.
I always drove confidently, and I was not even aware that there was such a thing as driving fear or anxiety.
One night, I was coming out of a club with a friend, I was going to drive him home. On the way, I noticed we were being followed by a white mini. Normally, I wouldn’t have had any kind of adverse reaction, but this being the north of Mexico during a violent time, I had a bad feeling.
I tried to lose the mini, but I couldn’t make it, and I didn’t want to risk our lives further, so I told my friend I was going to pull over, and he and I should just leave everything in the car and walk away, since robbing cars was a common occurrence in this city.
As I pull over, the mini reaches us and a guy with a machine gun points to my forehead and asks for money and cell phones. We did as demanded, he left, we left.
We drove to his place nervously, I spent the night, and I figured it was completely comprehensible that I was nervous, but in the morning I was going to get home that would be it.
Fear of driving sets in
Well, things were completely different. As I said goodbye to my friend, and started my car, my body started to sweat, and my pulse immediately rose. I noticed I was driving very nervously.
On the way home, I saw a white car coming from behind, and my mind immediately got into panic mode, for me that means aggression. So, I held on to my steer wheel and I was ready to crash against this white car if it meant stopping another aggression.
The car, with a family inside, went by of course. Nothing happened, and I had to pull over, and cry for around an hour.
I had these kinds of reactions for almost a year no matter where I was in the world, the pattern was the same, I was driving, I saw a white car behind me or next to me, and my mind would panic, and I eventually would have to pull over to hyperventilate, cry, or both.
Now just think of how common white cars are, this would happen to me at least 6 times a day, or more. I couldn’t bear anymore so I decided to take action.
Getting support from other people?
First think I did was tell my family, but since it had already been a while, they just invited me to get over that occurrence and move on. Nothing against them, but that was not helpful.
I told my friends, some of them had a similar reaction, some of them were compassionate but didn’t know where to start or how to help since this is not a common occurrence.
I appreciate fear, it has helped me to get away from dangerous situations, or know when someone is trying to take advantage of me, it has saved my life. So, I didn’t really want to live without fear, I just wanted it to work for me again, not against me. To come up when it was really needed, not in random occasions.
So of course, I went to a therapist, she was amazing and helped a lot, but my fear was very specific, so she pointed out to The Driving Fear Program.
Because of the reaction of my family and most of my friends, I remember feeling embarrassed about my problem. “I am an adult, I should have control of this” I would tell to myself repeating what they had said. And you know what, maybe they were right, but the reality was
I didn’t have control, I needed help!
So, I went through the Driving Fear Program’s website, read, watched the videos, looked for reviews.
I found their approach relatable to my situation. Because of the traumatizing situation that I had been through, and I associated it with driving. I was afraid of driving alone, traffic lights, etc. So, knowing that they were contemplating this made me feel comfortable.
Then, the practical approach and, something very important for me: No drugs! I don’t want to be dependent of any substance to live a normal life, I like my freedom, and that was what I was looking for when I looked for help. I was not going to exchange my peace of mind for a substance, so the fact that no drugs were used, made me feel reassured.
I’m really thankful that I was directed to the course, and that it actually addressed the main issue I had:
A traumatic experience that associated life threatening situations with driving.
Fear can come from different sources
I know that for many of you reading this review, could be even impossible to remember when or how this fear was originated. However, the fear is not based on a logical situation. When I was driving, I was not getting robbed every time, and one part of my mind knew it, but the other part immediately went into panic mode, and that is the common pattern for many of us who struggle with this.
Here’s the thing, every time this happens, and we let it go unnoticed, our brain immediately assumes that this is the correct response to the situation we are facing, driving, in this case.
And as we go on with life without dealing with this situation, the brain then follows our habit of panicking and it keeps reacting. Yes, it’s a habit! We contributed to condition ourselves.
But, this is not a blaming game, please don’t get me wrong, it’s to point the source. We didn’t know, we were afraid and that’s it.
Our brains, as evolved as they might be, they still have some cavemen stuff going on in there. So, if we find in ourselves in a threatening situation, this part, almost always, gets triggered, and that happened to us, only stronger.
Dealing with your fear privately
The last part that helped me to finally decide to buy, was the privacy factor.
I got the videos and PDF eBook in my inbox immediately, so I didn’t have to wait for shipping and what not.
The first thing that I noticed is that it is easy to read and relate to. I mean, it includes other people’s experiences and how they overcame their anxiety.
Also, I found comfort on how the system is built around privacy and you doing your own thing by yourself, without unnecessarily bringing other people to the process, but also, and very importantly, without exposing yourself to difficult or unmanageable situations.
The Driving Fear Program in a nutshell
Right from the start, after you buy the program, you get everything delivered to your email inbox, privately, nothing flashy.
You get the eBook in PDF format, the videos, everything. In a good organized way, it’s not like your inbox will get clogged. I didn’t order the physical version, that is print and DVDs, so I can’t talk about it, but I will about the digital version.
So I got:
- The complete manual
- An audio version of the manual (my favorite)
- The S.A.F.E. series
- The Fast Lane Audio Session
- The Anxiety Helix
- The Complete Overdrive System
- The Driving Fear Interviews
This sounded like too much for me, but everything is actually very well manageable and easy to follow, don’t panic.
The manual book, the core of this, was immensely helpful. It contained easy to follow exercises that I could do without falling into panic mode or over exposing myself to situations where I could easily lose control with no return.
It’s life changing.
As an entrepreneur, I’ve learned the value of habits and establishing routines, and this whole method is based on that. Which gave me complete reassurance and eliminated any scam suspicions.
There is a post on their blog about approaching situations like an athlete, and basically, they follow the same principles.
I mean, in the end, this is all about mental conditioning that a traumatizing experience triggered on us, so it can be changed. No one is born fearing driving.
So basically, it’s about creating a nice mental environment, and establishing a routine. That is, it helps our mind get around situations that can trigger anxiety, in a safe way, and through routine, we start conditioning our reaction.
It is possible to modify reactions
It takes time, it takes courage, but if you are reading this already, it means you are halfway there, the main ingredient is WILL, and well, you are here.
If you have ever read the book The Power of Habit, you will know how habits control almost everything in our lives, unconsciously, but we have to ability to change that. It’s not magic, or affirmations, it’s mental processes.
The part that helped me the most was the audio version of the manual. I am very busy, and I seldom have time to sit down and read. So, I downloaded the audio version to my audio books player in my phone, and I would listen in work, washing dishes, before going to bed.
The other thing that I found extremely useful was the Fast Lane Audio Session. A series of audio guides that take you through different specific situations that might trigger your panic. For me it was Driving Alone and Letting go of Losing Control.
After following the guides, I was able to understand that because I was having this panic episodes regarding the robbery, then my mind, on top of that, would trigger fears of getting into an accident and me being unable to handle a car by myself. So, it was fear on top of fear.
That pattern of association became clear in my mind and I was able to address it, with time, and eventually get over it.
Finally, I got to the Anxiety Helix PDF. This little book is sort of a map on how fear and anxiety works, and how you can break from it.
Listen, you are not the first or last person to suffer panic attacks for whatever reasons. Fear has been around for generation, and you can regain control of your reactions.
The experiences of others can help you
A very valuable thing I learned was the “Fight or Flight” mode. Basically, the primitive part of our mind, when triggered with a perceived life threatening situation, like driving or having a gun to your head, starts segregating substances that boost our strength, ability, and physical skill so we can defend our life.
However, when we are driving, there’s nothing really to fight or run from, it’s all in our mind, so all these substances stay within and the body needs release. That’s when, for example, I would start hyperventilating or crying.
After that, I would get a sense of impotency and feel bad with myself. Well, after reading the Anxiety Helix, I was able to get over this vicious cycle and get over these reactions. No, I didn’t learn how to live with anxiety, I learned to get over it.
It was not easy, it took time, and trust. I had to decide that this situation was actually beyond my control and, as capable and intelligent as I am as a person, I didn’t have the emotional tools to deal with this.
So, when I chose to be helped by The Driving Fear Program, slowly but surely, I got into a healthier state of mind.
Take action, now!
Before going through this traumatic experience, I had no idea how real fear of driving was, and how our mind can make the most particular connections if we allow it.
Getting robbed had nothing to do with driving, but my mind decided they were related and so I had to get over 2 fears.
I acted fast and maybe that is why I had success in less than 6 months, I can’t really say. But, it took me to be really tired, to be exhausted of being afraid, to take the step, and gladly I found this guide.
There were times where I really wanted to give up, but I knew, if once I had no fear, I can regain confidence again.
Although panicking under life threatening situation is understandable, it is not a common reaction. If you have lived with this fear for many years, you might even think this is the way you are wired, but no, there is hope to be different.
Driving it’s actually a useful activity, it is our mind that decides to categorizing as life threatening and our mind wants us alive, so it does our job asking us to stop. But we can train our mind so it is OK with us driving.
All of this through scientific methods. Although I do personally believe in meditation, I really couldn’t have achieved these results solely on meditating. Proven, scientific methods provided me with the solution to the problem I had, and I couldn’t have been more grateful.
This is why I really appreciated the manual. It’s not a generic, one size fits all, thing. It is especially designed for people who have fear of driving, and so everything is focused on approaching this situation without taking you through other avenues that have nothing to do with your fear.
I hope this was useful, and if not, maybe you can read other reviews of other people who have gone through the same.
Whatever you decide, it is important that you know that you have options, and living with fear shouldn’t be one.
The Driving Fear Program provides you a healthy alternative. There is no over exposure, drugs, or dodgy tricks, weird magic short cuts.
Everything is clear, well explained, and based on neurology, psychology, and experiences of other people like us.
I wish you can get over this fear, and live a more fulfilling life regaining control of this part of your life.